I saw a link from Scott Hanselman’s site to DreamInCode.net, which is looks like a community site for programmers.
I have been looking for a forum for software consultants like myself, so I will have to check out the forums:
http://www.dreamincode.net/forums/
There is the “Caffeine Lounge”, which sounds like the perfect place for me. When the guys at starbucks start your order before you say anything, you have probably been in there too often.